Sunday 13 March 2016

The psyche of the submissive male

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I recently recieved a request to offer insight into the male psyche. Of course I cannot offer a  first hand account  because I am neither male and not particularly submissive. Of course I have encountered many submissive males and in My experience they are motivated  by six  world views/perspectives. They are not necessarily mutually exclusive and sometimes function  in concert. The type A personality in Me wants to be able to list them in a particular order based on prevalence, preference, etc but prevalence is difficult to discern and I have no true preference. All this to say they are listed in no particular order.
#1 The Lover of Women.
This is a male who simply loves Women, all Women; BBW, slender, short, tall, etc. he thinks Women are beautiful creatures Who are deserving of adoration, reverence, worship and service.  he particularly appreciates the dominant Woman because She realizes  this as well and takes full advantage of Her gender status to reap the benefits. he serves because he loves to please his Goddess and see Her well contented. he needs an expressive Domme Who expresses Her pleasure with what he does for Her.

#2 The Female Supremacist
Easily mistaken for The True Lover of Women. However, he not only realizes how wondrous, beautiful and exquisite Woman are, but also believes Women are superior to men in many or all ways. he feels it is his duty as the inferior gender to serve his Superiors. he also looks to the Superior Female to hone him into a more pleasing, gentile individual despite the shortcomings of his gender. he serves because it is his rightful place and duty as a man to submit to the Superior Female. he needs a Domme Who will train him and instruct him in how to control his animalistic male drives and put Her needs above his own.

#3 The Inferior Individual, not to be mistaken for, the Female Supremacist. The inferior individual feels inferior to All, it is his sexual orientation that determines to Whom he will submit. he feels grateful to have a dominant Female to make his worthless existence worthwhile. he is apologetic by nature, he derives self-esteem and purpose from how useful and pleasing he is to his Domina. he serves because he would be nothing without his Domme. he needs a Domme that will give clear instructions, so as to better insure his success. his ideal Domina understands the difference between pride/arrogance and self-esteem  and will foster the latter in Her slave,  knowing he will serve best when he has confidence in his ability to serve Her.

#4 The True submissive, often  thought to have similar deficits in self-esteem to the inferior,    is in fact quite confident in their ability to serve. he choses to serve because it fulfils and pleases him. he gets pleasure  from giving his Domme pleasure through his service. he is not prone to giving his Mistress a laundry list of his wants.  In fact he is versatile in that he derives pleasure from a variety of activities; domestic, pain play, etc. he needs a Domina Who knows what She wants, because he'll do almost anything. The Domina for him is always in control  knowing Her slave is happiest when he is being dominated.

#5 The Dominant on Vacation, is the antithesis of the true submissive. This "submissive"  is  typically dominant at work and sometimes even in their interpersonal relationships. he serves because it is a welcome vacation from domming everyone around him. This so called submissive will not likely serve extensively, they are merely taking a vacation from giving orders by taking orders. For once they don't have to anticipate the next move, because their Mistress is doing it for them. This "submissive"  serves in order to have a reprieve from their responsibilities and daily stressors. This "submissive" needs a strong Mistress Who will put them in their place and shut down any attempts they will make to top from the bottom.

#6 The Paraphiliac/Masochist isn't necessarily submissive, he is submissive to his fixation on his paraphilia or the desire to recieve pain. Regarding paraphilia, in some cases it begins quite simply with shoes, for instance, progressing to a fixation on the foot, then the leg and eventually the actual wearer of the shoes; the Female who dominates him with Her shoes. Regarding masochism, the masochist desires pain and subsequently the dominant Female giving pain. In both cases the "submissive" serves the Domme in order to recieve the desired object/body part or pain. This "submissive" needs a Domme familiar with fetish, Who knows how to introduce a broader spectrum of interests,  stemming from the Paraphilia, in order to also see to Her desires.  The masochist needs a very sadistic Domina who will push their physical and mental pain threshold.

So there you  have it. As I said these world views/ perspectives are not mutually exclusive and in most cases would probably be best illustrated in a Venn diagram, a little from column , a little from column b, so to speak.

Furthermore,  it is worthwhile to mention that while I describe the ideal Domme for each submissive,  ideally he would look for a dynamic Domina who  can adapt Her style, while maintaining Her unique identity as a Dominant, in order to  get the best out of Her  property.

Of course there are male submissives who will argue  they don't have any of the aforementioned perspectives. If that is the case I ask them to contact Me and enlighten Me further on the psyche of the submissive male.....

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Wednesday 14 October 2015

JOI,Edging,Orgasm Denial, Oh My!

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"Owning" a man's cock, pay attention we've discussed this, is a real power trip. I love getting to say if he can touch it, how he must touch it, if he can cum and when, added bonus if I'm also asked what he must do with it when he's done, CEI anyone? Part of what makes a man feel like a man is his cock, so lording over it is a privilege and a pleasure owed to Femme Dommes.
Making a man stroke his cock e..x..a..c..t..l..y how you tell him and edging him for extended period of times can be humiliating and/or erotic but in any case the experience is always very intense. There is an added level to the fun when you make him suffer through all that and then deny him, either many times, with an eventual release, or once and for all. This whole game can go on over many hours, days or weeks, don't talk to Me about minutes, My boys MUST have stamina or the game isn't fun for Me.
Today I did a session with a kinkster, he had himself worked up for 5 hours, I told him to keep it throbbing and ready all day, you all know I'm a sadist! When mister x got to My play space I started making him stroke and I teased him beyond all decency, for an hour. Closer, get it closer, I kept saying. It is such a power trip to see a man that turned on for you, no it never gets old even after all the years I've been a Domina/Domme. There was no orgasm denial, he paced himself quite nicely, it was really up to Me to keep edging him to the point of achy blue balls, over and over again. And the whole time this song was playing in My head.....

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Wednesday 7 October 2015

Can't Believe I Never Mentioned This....Ballbusting!

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Ballbusting, Ballbusting,Ballbusting!!! I've been trying to be a good Girl and post to My blog more frequently, tonight a blog was obviously well overdue. But what to write? Mistress Sugah's sub clyde gave Me a wonderful idea, "why don't you write about your favorite way to torture cock and balls". My favorite way to physically decimate your manhood is ball busting, as a matter of fact, ballbusting is one of my very favoritest, bestest ;) BDSM activity of all time.
I love kneeing, kicking punching, and while it is not quite considered "ballbusting" it is a very nice compliment to it, stomping, squishing and trampling cocks too! Best part? As a BBW I have weight behind My punch, knee, kick or stomp. There is no sound quite as satisfying as that "I'm gonna up chuck, but not quite" sound a guy makes when you knee him right in the balls. Ballbusting with Me, is not a test, fire drill, dress rehearsal or dry run, it is the 100% real thing, I DO NOT hold back. When you sign up for ballbusting with Me, I want to hurt you, I want to make you crumble to your knees and I want to make you cry! And obviously I am not suited for the ballbusting amateur.
What if You do damage, Domina? Chance of  doing permanent damage is quite unlikely, unless I purposefully twist your testicles, which I wouldn't. FYI, if a Domme ever tries to twist your testicles, She either really wants to permanently damage you or She doesn't mind risking it. If you want to know why, try it and don't be surprised when you end up in the ER with terrible searing pain in your abdomen. If you like that feeling, be sure to message Me, that's the kind of masochist I've dreamed of since I was a little Girl  *sigh*. Damage, quite unlikely, pain, discomfort, tenderness, bruising, marking, swelling, very likely and greatly appreciated on My end, Ha!
Why? I'm not entirely sure. It could be I like the power of being entitled to hurt a man in the worst physical way. Perhaps I like humiliating men by "bullying" him in this way. The final most obvious reason could be that, "hello!?" I'm a total Sadist!

Feel free to email Me letting Me know what topics you'd like to see covered in My blog, it would be greatly appreciated


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Tuesday 8 September 2015

Humiliation

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I recently did a wonderful call on Talk to me where a caller wanted Me to be his self-deprecating, chastising conscience. I've never done a call or a session like that before; the power of being someone's inner voice made Me swoon. I think that was the most fun I've had humiliating someone over the phone.
Humiliation is a very personal thing.One of My pet peeves? When a client books a session and says I want to be humiliated. Hello? How?? Which is not to say I'm am not a skilled Dominatrix, Humiliatrix and psychological Sadist. However, if I am not familiar with you, how am I to know what makes you feel shame?
  • Forced Feminization
  • Forced Bi
  • Puppy Play
  • Diaper Play
  • Small Penis Humiliation
  • OTK Spanking
  • Foot Worship
  • Toilet Play
  • Forniphilia
  • Ass Smotheringor
  • Orgasm Denial/Control
  • Cuckhold Fantasies
  • Financial Domination
  • Blackmail
  • Verbal Humiliation
    •  Racial Slurs
    • SPH
    • Names like,Loser, Moron, idiot, Worthless,Wimp, etc
    • Slut, Bitch, Whore, Cum Dumpster, etc
And this list goes on...
My point being, what works for one may not work for the other. I love humiliating men, even to the point of tears, but if you want to get there, that thrilling feeling of shame and arousal that you yearn for , you have to be honest with yourself and of course with Me.
Ironically, you can't be ashamed of what makes you ashamed or turns you on. Be honest with your Domina, if she is the right Domme for you She wont judge you for what you desire, but when the time is right She will make you feel emasculated, humiliated, belittled, ashamed and oh, so turned on...

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Thursday 16 July 2015

Looking for serious personal subs/slaves

Luckily for all you subbies and slaves out there I am looking for applicants to serve Me. you must be in Montreal or be able to get to Montreal with ease, on a regular basis, with no drama (no drama, that will be a recurring theme in this post).
you must be willing to do the following (ordered based on priority)
  • Clean, properly, not naked, not moving dirt around, I have a big loft and multiple animals, you're in for some work. Don't worry My animals don't go to the bathroom on the floor only the Dommes of the house get to do that during play time lol 
  • Be handy, I'll need you to hang things on the wall of My dungeon, paint, fix things, don't worry Sugah Does electrical, don't believe Me? Ask Her! lol If you are handy with renovations that would be awesome.
  • Be a star, well actually I'm the Star, but I expect you to play a great supporting role. I need healthy, CLEAN, CLEAN, CLEAN, open minded subs/slaves to make movies and photographs. The movies and photographs will be My property to do with as I like, you can wear a mask.
  • Chauffeur, guys, this is pretty self explanatory, like duh, have a car, that is clean and be punctual.
Whatever you apply for, this does not make you eligible for free sessions, I will however give you a reduced tribute for sessions. Do Not be lazy, don't apply if you are lazy, have a crazy schedule or a crazy wife. I don't abide subs who don't live up to their obligations, can't be where they're supposed to be, when they're supposed to be. Don't bring drama in to My life, you will be out so effing fast you'll have no dramatic story to tell!
On the plus side, you will have the opportunity to serve in a household with two skilled, experienced Dommes, you will be taught etiquette and protocol, you will have the chance to realize your true nature under two loving, yet strict Dommes, Who will nurture that aspect of who you are.
To inquire further or throw your hat in the ring, contact Me via email

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Tuesday 14 July 2015

Do's and Don'ts of Anal, Strap-on, Pegging


My website it officially online and I am booking sessions, on the phone, skype and in real time. I get many requests for many different things (see My previous blog on facesitting). One of the activities men seem to particularly enjoy is anal play, involving butt plugs, strap-on, etc. Fun stuff! I love bending a man over and taking him like a little bitch; powerful, emasculating, demeaning...the things FemDomme dreams are made of! However, before I can show you one of the many things I do better than a man, is pound a hole, there are some things that must  be considered.

1. Do be clean, Don't be lazy!
When Dommes tell you to be clean, we don't mean take a shower. I mean DO take a shower, but We expect you to go the extra mile when you know you'll be doing anal play, go to the pharmacy and buy an enema, please flush yourself out before I go in. Not to make sure you are clean down there before anal play, shows a lack of respect, laziness and an overall lack of cleanliness. When I'm pounding you with My dildo I assume you are clean, I don't like being surprised with fecal matter on My strap-on, belt or clothing. By the way if a Domme says "do you have to go to the bathroom" while she is fucking you, you have fucked up and failed anal play 101!

2. Do be honest, Don't be shy!
There seem to be three different types men, they can be differentiated by how they respond to one question, "have you done anal before". There are the seldom few that are honest, what a breath of fresh air, there are the virgins and there are the super hos. Let Me break it down, if I ask you what your experience level is and you tell Me you are a virgin, I'm going to prepare My smallest toys, I will expect to start very slowly and build My way up over subsequent sessions. So When the virgins arrive in My dungeon and I go to enter a finger and My whole arm slides in, I kinda know somethings up, at this point I don't have the appropriate toys prepared and most importantly I know you are a big slutty liar! Now there are the super hos, they have had the biggest dildos, butt plugs, baseball bats, football teams in their ass, "Domina, I want your biggest dildo, and I want you to fuck Me hard and without mercy". What am I to do but to prepare My biggest toys and expect this slut to be ready to fuck after a very brief warm up, a little less foreplay if you will. So when this super ho gets here and he has a tight little barely fucked hole and he's clenching down on My finger out of fear, I'm going to be disappointed, let's face it I wanted to pound some bo-gina and once again I'm going to know you are a big pansy ass liar! Guys, Dommes aren't judging you, We don't prefer one type over another, both virgins and sluts can be fun, just be honest so We know what to expect in order to insure W/we both have the best time possible.

3. Do be realistic, Don't be a hero
This point is really something you have to come to terms with, within yourself and it is really an extension of point number 2. If you haven't had much experience with anal play, or it's been a while since you've been used like the slut you are, don't expect your Domina/Mistress to be able to fist you the first time She sees you. Yes, your ass stretches, yes it can accommodate very large things, VERY large things, with the right preparation, but it does take preparation. You wont be able to walk in a dungeon and be bent over and have a king dong shoved inside you as soon as you walk in unless you really are a super ho! Remember "Safe, sane, consensual" it is your Domina/Mistress's responsibility to keep you safe, giving you anal fissures and hemorrhoids is not safe.

4. Do relax, Don't stress
So you are in the hands of a skilled Domme (this also means She has put condoms on every instrument She is using in you), you have been honest with Her and you are clean as a whistle, now is not the time to clench your ass up! Obviously this is advice for the novice; if you are clean, you have no fear anything will come out, if you trust that your Domme is skilled and experienced, She will have warmed you up properly, and you have given total disclosure as to your anal play experience, She will be thoughtful in choosing what instrument to fuck your dirty (not really dirty, W/we have discussed this!) little hole. If you clench up on Her as She is entering you, you will cause yourself undo and unnecessary pain/discomfort. Let it happen, relax, if she is having a really hard time entering you, try to push down a bit, this will help you stretch. This is the ONLY time I want you to be relaxed in My presence, otherwise I want you trembling with anticipation and a soupçon of fear!

5. Do participate, Don't be a dead lay!
Guys, do you like when you are doing your damndest to make a girl cum, pounding away with everything you have, moving your hips, rocking and rolling, trying to bring all the motion to the ocean, and she is laying there, half dead or asleep? Didn't think so. Move bitch! I don't want you bent over grabbing your ankles saying "oh fuck Me Domina, harder Domina, I'm a slut Domina", whatever dude! you want to be fucked hard?! you want to be fucked like a bitch?! you want Me deep inside you?! Arch your back, move your hips, take My dick and stroke it with your pussy! I'm the Domme, trust Me, I work hard enough making sure W/we have fun, you do some of the work! There are plenty of sluts who want My dick, His name is Jamal, My dildo that is, and he wont want to fuck you if you are a cold fish!

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Monday 29 June 2015

Facesitting

It's time to clarify something boys... As a Pro and lifestyle Domina with a voluptuous, full, divine bottom I get many requests....sometimes outright begging to do facesitting. I love facesitting.
I love the thought that you are trapped, helplessly, smothering beneath My dominant ass. I love knowing that I have total power over your life... your breath. And finally total reign as to just how long you'll be under My control, strength and divinity. Have you ever thought about how vulnerable your nipples and pathetic cock and balls are to My sadistic thoughts ? I could do whatever I want to you and... you... wouldn't...even... see...it...coming.
Sounds fun doesn't it? Here's the rub, facesitting, is not oral sex, your tongue should not be in My ass or any other delicate places for that matter. If I wanted to receive pleasure I would demand it of an alpha, a partner of My choosing. To worship Me in that way is a priceless gift, a privilege, that I've yet to bestow on someone who is subservient to Me or paying Me for the service of My extensive skill as a Domina.
"Domina, I saw in a movie.... " that was a movie, not real life." but Domina, the last Mistress I saw... "that's not Me, I'm  all for Female empowerment, if a Woman wants to get paid to receive pleasure, more power to Her. But not this Domina, with beautiful feet, legs, hands and full shapely ass cheeks, I get My kicks being admired and if you are lucky, being caressed and dare I say kissed in these areas. I wear panties to facesit, why? Because this Domina likes to hold you captive, body and mind and leave you imagining, yearning, hoping to attain what those panties conceal. Yes that's right I'm a tease... but you like it!

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